okk..letz talk bout sumthin shitty today..u, ur impression of urself n oderzz impression of urself..
y is it dat d 3 of dem differ soo much..u generally dnt knw wat u r..n carry an impression of urs which generally is not completely wat u really are(open to debate)..n d ppl around u hav anoder impression of urs whc is distinct frm ur impression of urself, wat u think is d otherz view of urself and wat u really are.if ur getting wat im sayin n if at all ur still reading in d 1st place..
most of u r now thinkin as to wat is wrong wid me..nothinz wrong wid me..some of u may also be thinkin bout wat i juss said..if it makes any bit of sense to u..u think v portray ourselves xactly how v r? or even how we think v r..or maybe how we think v r portrayin ourselves..prassanshu is sure to commit suicide if he reads it by chance..i knw itz as ambiguous as section 300 of IPC..bt scrollin down further is ur choice..
ne wez coming back..so d question im asking is whether difference b/w all these things(usually different..again open to negotiation) shud make a difference to u..some of u again mite find it really silly dat im even talking bout it..bt d fact of d matter is dat more or less, sumtym or d oder..it does affect us..it does make us think as to what do d oders think of us..whatz wrong wid us when d oderz dnt approve of us..where is it dat v've gone wrong..yet again..agree or disagree!! d option is urs!!!
yeah d next ques whc crops in ur mind probably is "why?"(it did occur to me at least) i guess itz lack of confidence in urself.when urnt sure bout wat ur doing..u luk fr reassurance frm ppl around u n when u dnt get it(at times ur opposed..at oder times..severely opposed)..u tend to be uncertain bout urself..it makes u question ur identity, ur personality..d nxt question whc arises is 'whether d oderz r disapproving of wat u portray urself to be or dat wat u really are?' huhhh..it haunts ur mind if d answer is d latter one..do u need to change urself?? wat is so wrong wid u?? y is it dat dis hasnt happened ever b4?? especially when it hasnt hapened to u b4..u've been accepted b4..i dunno..i simply dnt get it!!
plzz share if u find an answer(also plz lemme knw if u already knw it n also if u think imnt making ne amt of sense)..plz do..i hav to get outa dis!!
its easy to say that we shud remain d way we r bt it is sumtimes difficult to do dat. u tend to behave differently in diff company. bt d day we start being ouselves, we wont have any regrets n we will b more confident. its obvious dat on the first look, ppl will form sm perception about us, we should "try" not to bother abt dat. slowly, if u think u r rite, ppl will hv to accept u. d key thing is dat one shud have no doubts abt himself/herself, dat wud make him/her more vulnerable n open to criticism or dissapproval.
ReplyDeletema god vidhi..ur comment is longer than ma post..im insecure!! i'l be an educated unemployed if u keep posting such comments!! lollzzz(no doesnt mean u'l stop posting)
ReplyDeletek yeah so seriously speakin..wat u guyz r sayin is easier said than done!! when u hav so much of negativity arnd u..to d xtent that when u pass some1..u feel they r mocking at u..it isnt easy to carry on.."being urself"!! it isnt easy nt to bother bout wat oderz think..i feel it cn only be a prsn of a really high esteem who cn do dat..kk only dat fr now..
N.B.-that im tokin bout dis doesnt go to mean dat ne such thing is happening to me..i've only been wondering..so kindly dnt ask me watz wrong wid me n stuff..
Aashika, Its better if u will find the answer yourself. You can find the answer in ur room or in class. please keep observing your behaviour in front of other person or different person, and try to analyse ur views abt others as they varies, suppose u r speaking abt the Radhika in front of radhika then i m damn sure that there will be some modifications whether intentional or not, if u r talking abt radhika in front of some other person than again it would be observed that ur views varies or if not the views then degree of stance varies. Now i would like to mention that some reasons are unknown for this sort of human behaviour as why human behaviour varies with person and time or in front of person or at diffrent time abt the same person. 1st thing or reason which i can think of is that most of the human beings are not sure abt their view because two kind of personality exists or human is multi dimensional and keep on thinking of the benifit which a person can give and u keep in leaving in the fear what loss u can suffered from or due to that particular same function. Its a two sided weight scale where equilibirium is not possible at all as human mind doesnot believe in rest. and One more thing its never easy to being urself in front of every person, that true that u can be urself or present a true image of urself in the case when u r in front of those who are close to u or trusted by u, but being urself is difficult in front of those who know u but not completley or adequetly. Following from this and a third category is of the person with whom u r not concerned at all and u dont give a thought to what they think abt u or ur acts. So i would like to say that its not easy but in all the 3 cases there are 2 cases where u can be urself by the efforts and analogy of maintaining consistency of ur behaviour and mentioning the fact if you found the facts which are in the contrary to the previous notion of ur mind which u have presented in the form of thoughts or facts. One of the biggest reason that human tends to solidfy their confused views and ideas on the basis of assumption and these assumption are presented in varying urself in front of others. Concluding i would like to say that its not easy but there is hope of success if u will try so because there are person aroung u who wont mind if u will tell the hidden truth one day and they will blv u as they have never believed ur lies. So keep trying to achieve this normative state of human thinking abt others.
ReplyDeleteNow ur question of human behaviour reminds me of the line of one of the hindi song
" Kahan Kisi ke Liye hai Mumkin sab ke liye ek sa hona,
thoda sa dil Mera Bura hai, thoda bhala hai sine me
Awaarapan banjarapan , ek Khala hai sine me”
This is the same thing happens with everyone. i have tried, not ttried ro i have just gave a option or the possibility of success or enumerate the circumstances when we can achieve this normative goal.. and one more thing this time this post is really good one..
But it will be better if u will present ur question in a better way...
Nice one.... I hope that u r not faking urself in front of me or the person who trusts u a bit because here trust will be the most important asset if there will be any establishment of the friendship because norms of friendship can be higher than what anyone can thinks for someone. But nice one. I hope that u will justify the anonymity name of the blog in coming time by questioning the behvioural aspects of the human being or thinking aspects of human being abt others and himself…
kk harshit..u guyzz r hooked on turning me jobless..agar tum log sab itne acche acchhe comments likhte rahe..to mera blog to band!!! lolzz..
ReplyDeletetaken ur point harshit..u cn be urself in front of sum1 who either doesnt make a difference to u or who u knw will accept u as u are(austin) n not as u ought to be!! bt i hav a lil disagreement..i think rather than changing ur conduct wid different kinds of ppl..1 shd remain what one really is..n then leave it to ppl whether to accept u or not..
n im not faking in front of ne1..i think u've misunderstood me..im not sure if dis is d right 'interpretation' of wat i meant in my blog..i dnt blame u fr dat..it waz ambiguous bt i guess to some extent..it waz meant to be!!
ne wez..guess wat..im sittin in prassananshuz class commenting..gr888!!!